In my post, 5 steps to align with your body, mind and soul, step 5 is personal values.
This transition time between old ways and new ways of being offers the space to consciously unfold your values. It’s the perfect time to determine what really, really matters to you as some of the distractions and noise have been stripped away.
What do you believe in at your core? Do you live in accordance and in alignment with those values?
When we hold our core values in our hearts, but don’t always live by them, we can fall out of alignment. You may get niggling feelings that something just doesn’t feel right. You might feel agitated, restless or, when you come to an energy healing practitioner for support, your solar plexus chakra may need extra attention.
Living your values sets your foundation for making decisions, setting those clear boundaries and allows your heart and soul be connected, sure, and aligned.
What are personal values?
They’re your standards for living, your core beliefs that guide how you play, live, work and thrive in any situation.
“Living with integrity means behaving in ways that are in harmony with your personal values.” Barbara De Angelis
How do you know what your core values are?
Your values are what make you YOU, but we don’t always know how to articulate them clearly.
- Grab a notebook or piece of paper and a pen.
- Sit quietly, place a hand over your heart, and take a few deep breaths to ground and centre.
- Write down the first 3 value words that come into your mind (without editing, filtering or thinking).
- Now add to the value words, creating a list of 10-15 values that resonate with you.
- Put the list aside for an hour, day or week.
- Return to your list and circle 3 or 4 words on your page that describe and embody who you truly are at your core and how you want to create your life. Look the words up in the dictionary or a thesaurus, and get clear on the words and how their meanings feel to you. Take your time to determine if these are the right words to describe your values.
- Write your words on sticky notes and place them in a spot where you can look at them regularly. Write them in your notebook or day planner. Share them with loved ones, friends and family.
- Live and honour these values.
Armed with these words that increase your self-awareness, you now have a clear understanding about why you do what you do. You can begin to eliminate the shoulds from your life and can more easily make decisions and establish boundaries in alignment with who you are at your core. You’ll build resiliency, and find better mental and physical well-being.
Honour those values
Honouring your values means you are honouring yourself, your soul, by living a life that is aligned and free from barriers that prevent you from your best life. Living your values allows you to live with integrity, to prioritize what’s important to you, and to make decisions based on this inner knowledge.
Like anything, honouring your values takes practice. Be compassionate with yourself, while holding yourself accountable to living from your heart and soul.
“Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; it’s choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.” Brené Brown